Is there a secret to achieving a lasting and healthy relationship?

A light and interesting topic for those already in a relationship and for those looking to invest in this theme and engage in a lasting relationship. For many years, science has researched and delved into studies to understand what is most important in a romantic relationship. According to research published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, factors such as commitment, sexual satisfaction, lack of conflict, and the satisfaction of the partner account for about 45% of the quality of the relationship. This was the viewpoint indicated by the couples surveyed.

As individuals, the research identified that respondents said that the most important factors for the success of a relationship are satisfaction with their own life, mental health, and anxiety, which together would correspond to 21% of success.

According to gynecologist and sexologist Lorena Baldotto, it may seem obvious, but each part of the answer is important. Being happy in a relationship and in sexual life, having few or no fights, and seeing the same happiness and complicity in the other are fundamental. When each part of these "requirements" is met, it is unlikely that a relationship will face problems.

“I would also say that dialogue between partners is as necessary as all the other factors. As a sexual therapist for several couples, I can affirm that dialogue is the key to resolving 99% of a couple's problems. It is essential to invest in conversation when we want things to work out. Those who think that good sex is the best remedy for the couple are mistaken. It is also very important, but it alone cannot sustain a relationship,” she said.

Lorena mentioned that she often hears in her office cases of people who had or have a relationship where the sex is good but the relationship is bad. “Having a few minutes of pleasure and a life of a bad relationship is not worth it! Every relationship must have respect, acceptance, and must be good for both sides,” she added.

It is important to invest more in dialogue and increase attention to the partner. If they still need professional attention, couples therapy will be interesting. If the partner is worth it, invest in the relationship, explore all possibilities, and align the details.